Anger Management
by Zaharan Razak on Thursday, February 24, 2011 at 12:59pm
Anger is a rising emotion that tends to spill over into exaggerated behavior like shouting, crying, banging, kicking or even indictable violence like taking the law into your own hands and use of inappropriate language such as vulgarism and obscenities. It is a reaction to a feeling of being wronged, insulted, your rights being transgressed, being betrayed, being oppressed, being suppressed, being unfairly treated, being jealous, bearing a grudge, being affronted, cheated, hurt, being attacked.
There are two kinds of anger, appropriate and inappropriate, and, well, borderline cases! In other words, like most if not all problematic human manifestations, anger is a whole range or spectrum rather than being clearly divided into black and white areas. Many gray areas. But it is useful to start by describing it as appropriate and inappropriate - just so or exaggerated. The key is it should not create more problems or bring in a new set of issues or be committing a new wrong in order to right an old wrong! One gray area is the 'artistic' or creative expression of anger where, for example, it may be somewhat exaggerated, like shouting - remember the primal scream? - but falls short of physical violence.
Anger is like a sick ancestor who refuses to die and occupies a room in the house of our mind, sleeping most of the time but occasionally waking up demanding attention. It is sleeping in our genes, in our childhood experience, and is awakened by the stresses of daily living. Most of us, most of the time, are mature, experienced and rational enough to manage the rising emotion of anger so as not to disrupt our daily life, cause ill-heath, age prematurely and damage our social relationships.
There are many ways to manage or express anger appropriately. Again, the key is not to bring the roof down on your own head but to subliminate them into healthy activities and outlets such as socializing, sports, hobbies, dieting, consciously and knowledgeably taking care of your health, doing charity or voluntary work, showing kindness and compassion to others including animals and plants and to make a habit of being kind, common courtesy, and of course having a sense of situation humor helps, either of the mild or hilarious kind. Be a riot but don't cause a riot, as it were.
There are two kinds of anger, appropriate and inappropriate, and, well, borderline cases! In other words, like most if not all problematic human manifestations, anger is a whole range or spectrum rather than being clearly divided into black and white areas. Many gray areas. But it is useful to start by describing it as appropriate and inappropriate - just so or exaggerated. The key is it should not create more problems or bring in a new set of issues or be committing a new wrong in order to right an old wrong! One gray area is the 'artistic' or creative expression of anger where, for example, it may be somewhat exaggerated, like shouting - remember the primal scream? - but falls short of physical violence.
Anger is like a sick ancestor who refuses to die and occupies a room in the house of our mind, sleeping most of the time but occasionally waking up demanding attention. It is sleeping in our genes, in our childhood experience, and is awakened by the stresses of daily living. Most of us, most of the time, are mature, experienced and rational enough to manage the rising emotion of anger so as not to disrupt our daily life, cause ill-heath, age prematurely and damage our social relationships.
There are many ways to manage or express anger appropriately. Again, the key is not to bring the roof down on your own head but to subliminate them into healthy activities and outlets such as socializing, sports, hobbies, dieting, consciously and knowledgeably taking care of your health, doing charity or voluntary work, showing kindness and compassion to others including animals and plants and to make a habit of being kind, common courtesy, and of course having a sense of situation humor helps, either of the mild or hilarious kind. Be a riot but don't cause a riot, as it were.
Yap Poh Meng Anger followed by vulgarism and obscenities are replacement of the deficiencies in one. An intellectual would controll his anger and thrash it out in a rational manner.
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Thursday at 3:57pm · · 1 personLoading...
Rohiman HaroonOrang Melayu, too, are famous for anger that the colonial British learnt and took the word "amok" into the Queen's English vocabulary. The story was like this: After seeing too many of these hysterical behaviours particularly amongst Mal...ay men running amok with parangs, Stamford Raffles curiously and quickly asked his subordinates what kind of hysterical behaviour that was. They came back to Raffles and told him that there was no such word in English to describe the behaviour. He then approached Abdullah Munshi (or Munshi's son) how to describe the behaviour. Abdullah Munshi replied: "If I tell you, would you mind tell Her Majesty The Queen that I was the one who invented the word." He spilled out the word and to his amazement, Raffles took weeks to ponder on the word. He kept on coming back to Abdullah Munshi to ask and then praised that it was such a wonderful but mind boggling word to describe a delirious and violent behaviour in such a short syllable word. In returning to England, he saw a pasqual running amok and being a witness to the crime, he told the police that the behaviour was amok. In the courts, he used the word again and the word was picked up by a daily news reporter, who then described in detail how the word ämok derived. If you go to Sussex Garden today where a lot of historical Malay documents were compiled and stolen, you'd find the word amok was annotated and absorbed into the English Language only later at the turn of 20th century as it was debated over and over by English linguists and psychiatrists alike. Much to our dismay, the name of Abdullah Munshi never surfaced in those intellectual discourse. I am sure Abdullah Munshi must be swearing from his grave. But alas, the word was not his in the first place. Two sen from me. Cheers.See More
Thursday at 4:01pm · · 5 peopleLoading...
Zaharan Razak If he concoct it, it is a good one, kihkih! If it is true, he is a good ferret to dig out obscure and forgotten nuggets of info :-)
Yesterday at 12:16am ·
Rohiman Haroon Heard it from Mana Sikana in one of his literary public lectures. I laughed my heart out...it is comedic tragedy, really.
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